It is not an easy task for the young people, with their physical changes, which are of course visible to the outside, to understand and become a part of their identity affect the primary relationships. It is just as hard but for them also, to cope with this new experience that in certain situations now suddenly sexualized aspects in the own perception of their lived relationships involved. Just when the parents in their arms they are repeatedly have fled to which they have gone if their feelings felt ubergeschwappten over where they have found a sympathetic ear and understanding where they felt at home and home, always, everything in the device. Because this home for a long time is lost with the early sexualization. Suddenly threatening feelings and sensations of perception of are triggered by people who prefer they had, because these parents are namely not gender-neutral, but also the Category man or woman belong to and so can land with this topic just just not with the parents, but must learn to solve it in itself.
There are many common situations, to a new safety in dealing with yourself and your own and finding other gender also in dealing with the endowed parent. Thank God this works in most families, without that big must be thought about. Contrary to the beliefs of many parents, the children would be with regard to the information, today because they have read various youth magazines already much further, and by hence learned, seemingly unconcerned attractiveness, sexuality and relationship for speak, I experience this in my daily work differently. We adults must allow from occurring demonstratively knowing representing not deceive us. Because, when their own development, existing knowledge about certain operations use only little.
One is the uncertainty about the novelties in the experience and feeling, the beautiful and scary, but the fearful and gloomy feelings arising therefore around, easily captured and must first of all an attitude and find a deal with. The difficult it is, that even the relationships of, where you previously reversed itself and felt at home, without having to think about. Joachim Armbrust accompany young people what teachers know if 2011 approx. 144 pages Verlag Vandenhoeck & Ruprecht Marz 12.95 ISBN 978-3-525-70121-8 with a preface by Prof. Dr. Klaus Hurrelmann Joachim Armbrust practice for psychotherapy, couples therapy, supervision, coaching, mediation, and process design Wall Street 2 74523 Schwabisch Hall Tel: 0791/71552 E-MAL: URL: